Feeding time

I discovered another incredible Pinterest find!! Baby Foode

Starting to feed your baby solid food is a fun, exciting, and scary time! Fun to see your babies reactions, exciting to have a little bit of a break from breastfeeding what feels like every ten minutes and scary because you do not want to feed your baby the wrong thing! Even with my second the first little bit of feeding solids feels brand new all over again! You have no idea what, if any, allergies your baby might have, how picky of an eater they may be or if you are giving them the right nutrition!

So with so many questions where do you look for the right answers and for recipes?

I found the most incredible website with articles about how to feed, what to feed and why and recipes for your little one that they will love!!!

Making home made food is harder than just buying from the grocery store, however it is so rewarding, especially when they love it and they will LOVE these recipes!

I usually pick about 4 recipes, make large batches of it and freeze most of it and defrost as needed so you only have to do it every couple weeks. Another wonderful feature about this website is that it tells you how long the food will store for.

How do you know when to start feeding them solids? or at least how did I know? 

I once heard the most outrageous advice when I had my first child. “you have to give your child what is best for them, they do not know what they want.” Of course it is our job to give them what is best! However I do believe babies know what they want. I never woke my babies every two hours to feed. If they are sleeping for 6 hours they must be happy and full!  If you were having a great sleep and someone woke you every two hours to shove food down your throat would’t that upset you!? Same goes with when I decided to feed my babies.

My first was almost 6 months old. She was grabbing at and crying for the food we were eating.  It was VERY obvious with my second! I swear she was eating every 30 minutes and so cranky and violently grabbing at food! She has always slept through the night and she was up every couple hours to eat, she was only 4 months old but she was obviously very unhappy and unsatisfied with just milk.

So I let them tell me when they were ready! Babies are very good at telling us when they are unhappy! So when they are no longer satisfied with drinking just milk they will let you know!

Some babies might not be as obsessed with their food as mine! So they might not show signs of wanting solid foods before the 6 months! Of course that is fine! However start them on iron rich foods when they are 6 months because your milk will no longer be giving them the full nutrition that they need!

I am not a professional this has just been my experience, so if you are still uneasy about what to feed or when to feed contact a nurse in your area! When I have questions I call BC health and they direct me to who to call for questions.

Enjoy this exciting time in your babies life! The smiles and giggles and mess that comes with it!

And just a little advice, don’t turn your back on the yogurt container!

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Beautiful Mess

Everyday when I look on my Instagram I see beautiful women and their beautiful children, beautiful clothes, beautiful homes and beautiful meals. Of course I LOVE it! I wanted to join this world and share my own families beauty!

I love this community! They are all hard working women (and men) no matter what their topic is, clothes, parenting, DIY, food, or interior design, your mind is always going, thinking of your next idea, outfit, project or post and then how to word it and stage it perfectly to make it so beautiful!

As the audience seeing everyone’s beauty can inspire you! Maybe it will spark an idea for an outfit for the day, or a new way to organize your hallway closet. Maybe you will finally have inspiration on how to decorate your coffee table or find inspiration to work out or do something nice for someone else! These people can influence you in a simple way but they can also move us in big ways!

So I have to admit on those days that I am so exhausted because I was in a boxing match with my kids all night and they won!!!! So I’m beat up, I’m wearing my pj’s (and not the cute ones,) my hair and teeth are not brushed and I get to sit and look at everyone’s beauty, I realize motherhood is not always beautiful, or at least mom isn’t always beautiful. There are days I would not even snapchat my best friend or mother! My kitchen is usually NOT picture ready and my clothes are usually stained with some sort of food!

Now NO ONE wants to see that!! At least not mine! However, in reality it is something every mother does see every day!

Now am I saying we should share our mess? Probably not! Ever heard the saying; “don’t air your dirty laundry” well it can be taken literally in this case! Maybe we shouldn’t be posting either! (However, maybe you have an idea about laundry, so a picture of dirty laundry might be acceptable!)

Everyone is on here to inspire and share! So let’s inspire and encourage by sharing our un-staged moments, share ways to cope and conquer those tough days or that pile of laundry! Take down the filters and share the true beauty of motherhood!! You never know who you can make smile, laugh, or maybe even cry!

I know personally it can sometimes give me the assurance that I’m doing an alright job! Other moms, no matter how beautiful their life seems can have times when their house is a mess they are a mess their kids are a mess and that does not mean you are lazy or a slob or a bad mother! It means your just having a NORMAL day!

Not saying I do not see these posts! In fact I have been seeing more and more of it! The messy bun, the late night feeding conversation and the house being lived in! I love seeing others embrace and enjoy these tough years because some times it feels like they will never end so it is good to know you are not alone and there are other moms out there feeling the same way and we can all laugh or even just smile about it!

The perfect instagram post is just a small area of their life, you never know what actually surrounds that picture! So do not let the Insta-sham discourage you. Just see it for what it is, a fellow mother sharing a beautiful picture of a moment, it is not their entire life! Just like when you are invited over to someone’s house for a meal. They have cleaned their house, set the table all nice and dressed everyone up just for you! These women have invited you into that moment so they cleaned the house / area of their house, staged the meal all nice or dressed up! It looks beautiful but it does not mean every second of their life looks like this!

So just like it, share it, or take inspiration from it and share you beautiful, real moments. No matter your parenting style, personal style, or home style, we can ALL take comfort in knowing and seeing that we are not alone when it comes to having a messy house, messy bun, or messy life some times! We all have our moments of greatness and our moments of mess. So be encouraged and encourage others with both your beautiful greatness and beautiful mess!

Do not loose your relationship once you have kids!

Having two young kids, a young business and a young relationship is no easy task! We had a hard time trying to do everything and maintain a great relationship! It has taken time and effort on both sides but we both love the place we are in now! 

I am not a relationship therapist or any kind of expert at all, in fact I have a lot of learning to do myself. However I think every parent can relate, when you are new parents exhausted from no sleep, warn out from your days and still have all the other stresses of life it can have a strain on your relationship. 

So I thought I would share a few of the simple things that have helped us maintain a happy relationship, hoping maybe it will help! Because this should be a happy and exciting time in your life. You need to be able to lean on your spouse and rely on them for whatever you may need at that time of stress, whether it be a laugh, a cry, someone to listen, someone to hold you or someone to drink with. It’s a time when you need to be stronger than ever! Some days you will feel like those kids kicked your a**! So You need your best friend to help you smile and laugh and comfort you! And you will need to be able to do the same for them.

Again this is not coming from a professional it’s just from my experience so far. 

We have only been married for 4 years but for the majority of our marriage we have had kids, or I was pregnant, which can be just as bad with all those hormones!! So it was a hard adjustment. We were very young so our mindset was still on work and fun not suburbs and kids! In fact that was never the life I saw myself living!

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But when I stopped and thought clearly about it, we were living a great life! We should be happier! It took a lot of long late night talks and effort but it was so worth it!  Now when I think back on it, I can see the things we were doing wrong and how we fixed them.

Every relationship is different so maybe some things will work better for you, but here are the things that helped us.

Steal the time to be alone together

No easy task with kids I know! But if there is a time when both kids are sleeping, rather than always doing some extra cleaning or work, push the pause button and be together! Especially if this is a rare thing, try to forget the mess and the bills and everything else, Even if it is just 30 minutes, steal that time to be together.

Also try to make it something other than a movie or TV show. Try to DO something together,  light some candles, pour some wine, and play some cards, snuggle on the couch, or just sit and talk! Whatever it is you do, spending some quality time together is important!

Also don’t use this time to bring up that thing he did that irritated you or what he can do better, push aside those small things and use this time to build each other up! Laugh, talk about the funny things your kids did or goof around, maybe you like to dance or have a favourite board game or whatever it is have fun together! Doing this at least once a week will be a nice little refresher and brings you closer!

TALK! 

This is SO important! You need to know how the other feels! Neither of you can know what the other is thinking at all times.

On the other hand you don’t need to share EVERY little thought that comes to your mind! I have a problem doing this! I share everything, and it was usually the negative things and not always the positive! Each of you already has their stresses so we should not be reminding each other of our constant imperfections. Saying the things you appreciate, complementing them on something they did or even how they look will help keep your relationship a positive, happy, and loving one!

So here are a few important facts I have learned about talking with each other;

Breathe and think. Don’t say things in the heat of the moment and start yelling.

Pick a good time and talk to them.

When it is their turn to talk, Listen! You might not always like what is being said, but remembering you are not perfect and you are in this together.

Let them say all they need to.

Don’t get angry, they are, hopefully, not attacking you!

Try to act the way you would like them to if you needed to talk!

Take to heart, move on and remember. Do not hold on to those things that frustrated you, accept the apology and continue on! However always be thinking about the points they brought up! Try to make changes for the better.

Always remember it takes time! Don’t expect all the problems you discussed to all go away that night! It will take time and effort and probably more talking.

Be a team! 

When it comes to parenting you both need to be on the same page. Not one parent can always be mean and the other fun! Again it goes back to talking, discuss your views on everything parenting; teaching, discipline, rules, friends, entertainment, and anything that comes up! Be on the same page and share the roles! You need to have each others backs! Some times that may mean compromising, but in the end, make sure you are both comfortable with the decision.

It really is the small things.

Always keep your spouse in mind! It is true that the little things are so important, especially if you are not able to make the grand gestures nearly as much now! Even as small as a note on their coffee mug for when they wake up can make their entire day and remind them of your love!

Never be ashamed of being cute! Maybe it is not always your thing! But telling her how beautiful she is with no makeup on, (especially because she may not always be wearing it,) telling each other how much you appreciate how hard the other works, or buying a small little gift just because you were thinking of them. These little always reminds them of your love!

I am sure you have heard the expression, “keep the flame burning” well once the work of starting a fire is done, it is quite easy to throw a few logs on to keep it burning. Those little things are the logs! Its not a huge effort but it will keep the heat! and yes once in awhile you will need to put more effort in by collecting and cutting the wood, or planning a nice evening and doing something nice but it is all worth the effort to keep that heat!

Remember your relationship is the centre of your family. It is how your family started, what created your kids, and what will keep everything together. You are responsible for shaping those little minds so set a wonderful example and never loose who you were, in 20 years that is all that will be left and you want that to be a happy time! Most importantly though you want now to be a happy time for your kids and you can do that by being happy yourselves. Take care of each other and keep that flame burning!

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Feeling done? Burnt out? Stressed?

I think every mother regardless of her situation one, two, three, four or more children. Single mom, working mom, stay at home mom, every mom feels burnt out at some point!My point was this October!

My dear, hard working husband has been gone a lot this October. He only goes away, or really does anything for himself twice a year, his hunting trip or maybe two, and his family guys golf trip. This year they landed back to back so I have been alone a lot this month. And of course right now both my kids are having a hard time sleeping, making for one tired mom and two tired and cranky kids!

Lucas, my husband, is the one that that keeps me sane, happy and laughing at the end of everyday so without that, without getting some adult conversation everyday and a break from being mom, I have been feeling burnt out.

I decided to share this because I thought because I was a stay at home mom, raising my kids, teaching them, playing with them, taking care of their needs, our needs and taking care of the house IS my job! I never thought I SHOULD feel burnt out. Usually I would not do anything about it, ignore it and brush it off thinking it is nothing. However, this time it involves my kids I was not being the best mom I can be for them. I had less patience, I was not as fun, or happy, causing my kids, especially Emily my toddler to  feed off of it and start acting the same. That is when I knew I had to take care of myself!

I started looking things up, on Pinterest of course! I found two blogs that made a dramatic change for me.

Burnt out Mom – Keeping up when you feel burnt out after having kids…

5 Ways to Avoid ‘Stay at Home Mom Burnout

The first one spoke to me because it was simple! and it is great advice for all moms! There is no magical list of things to do, it is the basics, the simple things, the things really we should all be doing and I was doing before even having kids. Going outside, eating well, exercising, taking time for yourself , all so basic but when you are in parents survival mode you neglect these things thinking there are more important things to get done. But really taking care of yourself is the most important thing you can do for your kids, makes you a better mom, the mom your kids need!

The second spoke to me and my situation. I am a stay at home mom. Many may see this as simple, I did before I was one! But I never expected the emotional and physical tole it can have. The  feeling of not actually accomplishing anything in your day or week! You have all day at home but some days you can’t even brush your teeth or hair, let alone tackle that mountain of laundry, wash those disgusting floors or cook an actual meal. You can start to feel isolated and alone. I mean you are with people but you are speaking gibberish all day.

However I have come to really appreciate the life and support I have! It may be a small circle of people and it might be a less exciting life, in the way that  most of my outings consist of play places jungle gyms and other kids activities. And a meal out is early and usually consist of at least one freak out so it is quick and never fancy!

On those days I am having a rough time rather than getting stressed and worked up and possibly isolating myself and holding in all these emotions, I now know what I have to do! I also know that it is normal to feel this way, and taking the simple steps and advice I have gotten from these two blogs helped me to be a happier mom which made my kids happier, and that is the important thing!

In the end we have to remember our kids are truly a blessing! I am so fortunate to have them, and I am never alone! I appreciate having two sets of grandparents around to help us and look after the kids so once in awhile I can go out with my husband to have a nice meal,and wear clean clothes, and carry a clutch! I know not everyone has that!

Some nights when I go to bed the house may be a disaster but tomorrow is a new day and we had a fun day today and my kids went to bed happy!

If you are ever feeling done, alone, stressed, or burnt out! Take a step back and remember the simple things! And don’t work yourself up thinking you need to be the picture perfect mom with the sparkling house, clean and quiet kids and the perfect marriage! It is such a short time in your life! Though the days seem long the years are short and soon you will be alone at home drinking your glass of wine in a clean house it may be just you or your with your husband the house will be quiet and you will be looking back on these hard times wishing you could go back! Because they are the greatest times in your life! So enjoy them and your kids!

Please if you are feeling as I was, read these two blogs and maybe do more research if needed and take the advice and steps to feel better!

Though it is not a project or DIY I see this as another Pinterest success and I hope it works as well for you!

Since the day Zoey was born I have been holding them both in my arms everyday, even though the load is heavy I soak it up knowing it won’t last long! It may not always be smiles but I love knowing they both still need me!

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Bread-er Late Than Never

Lol my dear husband helped me with this title!

I have been married four years now, and I have always wanted to be the wife that makes homemade bread! Now that I am a mom I want my kids to have the memory of the house smelling like fresh baked bread, and the sweet taste of fresh bread hot from the oven with butter on it. However I have never been great at it! I have been trying In a bread maker this whole time and it has never come out right! 

Last night during my Pinterest feeding time I came across this pin and decided to try it out. I was actually so excited about it that as soon as Zooey was done I got my husband to look after the girls for 20 mins while I ran out to the grocery store to get yeast and a cooked chicken so I did not have to cook dinner and I could get started right away!

I am not going to post the recipe because it is not mine but here is the link to the blog I got it from

I am happy to say it was a Pinterest success! Tasted so good! It was so easy and quick! And everyone loved it! Hope you do as well!

Enjoy our messy little journey through this pin!

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The yeast is foaming I did something right!!!

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Someone wanted to do some baking of her own while I was busy

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 Multitasking; my dutch oven warming up and some veggies roasting for dinner.

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Dinner and dishes while I wait

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And we all enjoyed!!!! I hope it turns out as well for you!

Honey I shrunk your sweater!

Ever pulled the laundry out of the dryer and realized your sweet husband who was just trying to help you out with all the laundry accidentally put your favourite knit,  what used to be oversized sweater through the dryer and now it looks like a toddler could wear it, or maybe it just fits tight now, (not what we want in the winter season.) Well a few weeks ago this happened to me and it may seem dramatic but I was devastated! So I decided to listen to some advice I got from Ellen’s #yourwelcomewednesday instagram post.

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I had heard this advice before and never thought it would work, but this time I was desperate! I had just found this sweater! It was the perfect knit and perfect fit! I would do anything to save it, (even use 1 cup of my nice conditioner!!!)

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So it is as simple as the post reads. I took a bowl, you could probably just put it in the sink too, filled it with ice cold water, mixed in 1 cup of conditioner, (I recommend getting a cheaper brand that you don’t mind using for this) and set my sweater in there. The post does not say how long to let it sit but I did it for a few hours and kept checking it to see if it seemed any different, and it worked!!! My beautiful sweater was back to normal! To get rid of the conditioner I put it in the wash on hand wash, light wash, small load setting, laid it out flat to dry, not hang dry because it will loose it shape, and the next day my beautiful sweater was back to normal, and oh so soft I must add!

So from both my husband and I,

THANK YOU Ellen!

The Perfect Capsule Wardrobe!

Have you ever had one of those moments when you are staring in your full closet looking for something to wear and after what seems like forever you start yelling “I have NOTHING to wear!” I know you have! Every woman has! Well I got sick of these moments! So I started doing my research, on Pinterest of course!

Having a toddler and a baby as bosses means I do not have a lot of NEED to look good! And they do not pay much so I have a smaller budget to spend on myself! But all of this does not mean I have any less desire to look good and feel good! I know sweats are easy and comfortable but if you look good it will help you feel good! Moms can be hot too! No need to through yourself away just because you have a new title!

So I needed simple, affordable, flattering clothes! Then I stumbled upon the term capsule wardrobe. Just what I needed!

When I started reading about it I was immediately interested! The idea of a smaller wardrobe full of items I LOVE and that will be easy to put together was exactly what I was looking for! So I read, ALOT! These were my two favourite blogs for information.  This one I loved for the pictures and the advice on how to take one piece of clothing and wear it in so many different ways! This one is where I did all my reading! Lots and lots of reading! Finally I felt confident enough to get started!

How did I do it?????

So first things first! I made my list! I didn’t start by cleaning out my closest because I wanted to have my list so that while I was going through my clothes I would be confident in what I wanted to keep or toss.

Here is my master list!

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How to make your own list.

Do what works best for you! Some suggest sticking to numbers, 4 tops, 4 pants and so on, this did not work for me but maybe it will for you. I went through my pins and found a pattern, the things I was posting the most, for example I had a lot of pins with light washed ripped jeans so they went on the list. Find the things you love the most and that you will wear all the time!! Then search for outfits. I wanted to know more outfits to go with my light wash ripped jeans so I looked it up and found a few ways to wear them. Every Item I put on the list had to be versatile, not only good for one outfit or event.

Spend a lot of time looking at pictures of other peoples capsule wardrobes for ideas. These are just a couple I used.

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Things NOT to put on your list.

Some say accessories and bags but I put these on my list because again having a smaller budget I wanted to be sure of what to get and be sure I can wear them lots! I just made sure to stick to the classics!

Do not put work out clothes, PJ’s, those jeans you use to paint with and so forth on there. This is for your every day wardrobe!

NOW I emptied my closest!

This is the second funnest step for me (after the shopping of course!)  I love organizing and getting rid of things I am not using! But this time was different, I was really hard on myself! I was holding onto a pair of jeans I LOVED 4 years ago hoping I would fit into them again! I finally got rid of them! They DO NOT fit and if they ever did would they be in style still? Probably not!

So I made 3 piles,

1.Toss or donate.  After I made this pile, I went through this again and looked for clothes that were damaged to toss.

2.LOVE.  These were my go to items that were on my list that make me feel good and I love to wear.  They have to be on the list! to steer from your list!

3. Seasonal.  These still must be items you LOVE but it is just the wrong season. Store them for later!

Shopping!!!

Now that you have a much smaller wardrobe you are going to need to go shopping!

Do it slowly and go for quality not quantity! Instead of going on those huge shopping spears, coming home with loads of clothes and then a few months later wearing only one or two of those items, just buy a few items at a time and learn to mix and match your outfits.

I am still working on my shopping but I am taking my time and finding the perfect item, not settling! If I am not 100% over the moon happy about it I do not get it and keep looking to see if there is something better! I am buying more quality things so they last longer and they really do fit and feel and look better! And of course I am always looking for a deal! I love a good sale!

Now you can also have more than one capsule! Maybe you need one for work clothes! That is a great idea! Do what works for you, and remember these 3 main rules for your perfect capsule wardrobe! Making it fit to you is what makes it perfect!

Keep it simple

Quality not Quantity

Less is more!

Hope this helps you in making your perfect capsule wardrobe!

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